Grieving Process
The grieving process according to the Elizabeth kubler-Ross has five stages which include denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. In the denial stage one argues to be okay though he/she has pain which one is undergoing. One sees his life as without meaning though the stage helps one to survive the loss and face the grief feeling without fear. In the anger stage one tries to think why this things are happening to him and whom they can really blame for all what is happening. Bargaining stage one tries to weigh what need to happen to him and what should not. People can thing of what to do to postpone their problem. In the depression stage one never bother as one thinks he is going to dye or the problem has to be there no matter what they do. Lastly is the acceptance stage where by one prepares for results.
The story of the jobs suffering correlates with Elizabeth Kubler-Ross process of grief. Job had lost every thing God had given him, physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually. He lost all the wealth he had, children, he fell sick, and his wife he was against him as he asked him to abuse God and die to avoid all the suffering but job could not. In the book of Job 1:21 when he claims that the lord gives and He has taken job shows a sign of denial in him. Also when he tells God in chapter ten that God knows that he is not guilty he shows a sign of denial. Jobs anger is evidenced in chapter two when he asks whether we will expect something good from God. In chapter 7: 11- Jobs shows anger apparently when he claims that he can’t just keep quiet and he has to complain in his soul. (Garrett, 2008) Bargaining is seen evidenced in Chapter 9 when Job asks whether there is any one who can arbitrate between him and God and who can remove the rod placed on him by God for him not to be frightened anymore. Job’s depression runs almost throughout his suffering. In chapter 10:18 Job asks God why he brought him in this world and he wishes to have died before any individual saw him in the world. Acceptance is shown in chapter 13:15 when job decides to hope in God no matter what has happened to him. (New International version bible.) After a conversation with God in chapter 42 the acceptance is also evidenced when job understands that God was putting him in test to understand how he really loved him.
Comparison and contrast table.
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Job’s grief process. |
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross grief process |
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There is denial in the Job’s grief process |
There is denial in the process. |
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Anger is evidenced in the Job’s grieving process |
Anger in the grieving process |
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Bargaining is portrayed in the Job’s grieving process |
There is bargaining in the grief process |
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Depression is evidenced almost throughout the Job’s Grief Process |
Claims that depression comes after the first three stages. |
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Acceptance is the last stage of grief process |
Acceptance as the last stage of grieving process |
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Job rotates through all the stages of grief identified by |
Identifies the five stages in order. |
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Job grieving process involved the interchanging of the Elisabeth’s stages of grieving. |
Needs one to put in place the five stages to cope with the grief. |
References.
Garrett, G. (2008). Stories from the Edge: A Theology of Grief.
Hodder General Publishing Division. (1992). New International Version Bible. Hodder General Publishing Division.
